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Trauma Lessons From Harry Potter

3/1/2024

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Written by Christian Swan on July 30, 2017

Last night, I had the opportunity to watch the Colorado Symphony perform the score from Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets while the movie itself played behind them. It was a really fun night out with my sister-in-law, as we both love the Harry Potter series and also gained appreciation for the stunning John Williams score. As I reflect on the movie today, there is one line that continues to repeat in my head. At the end of Harry's confrontation with Lord Voldemort, Ginny Weasley is revived and Harry Potter's basilisk injury is healed. Harry looks up at Ginny and says "It's alright Ginny, It's over. It's just a memory." Harry and Ginny have just suffered immense traumas that included actual threat to their lives, and yet in this moment, the traumatic memory is consolidated. Harry recognizes that he is safe, and that the events will now only exist in a memory in his mind. The memory remains, but it has no power over him. 

​In one line, Harry Potter summarized the goal of trauma therapy: successful recognition of one's safety. 

As many of us know, recognizing that you are safe after experiencing trauma is much easier said than done. Sure, you may have the cognitive realization that you are no longer in danger, but the nervous system often operates as if the trauma is ongoing. This sense of ongoing trauma manifests itself in the form of post-traumatic symptoms such as sleeplessness, panic attacks, flashbacks, irritability, fearfulness, or compulsive behavior. The goal of trauma therapy, then, is not only to know on a cognitive level that one is safe, but to develop coping skills around the post-traumatic symptoms so that the nervous system can start signaling that one is truly safe. 

Each individual heals from trauma differently. Some, like our friend Harry Potter, may integrate the traumatic story more quickly. However, others may continue to suffer from post-traumatic symptoms for months or years after the traumatic event. Where are you in your healing from trauma? Perhaps you have achieved complete healing and can say confidently, "This event happened to me and is part of my story, but it is now only a memory." Perhaps you are experiencing some of the symptoms I mentioned above. It's also possible that you fall somewhere in the middle. Some traumatized individuals may function at a high level, while frequently feeling blindsided by irritability, anxiety, or memories of the traumatic event. 

If you are considering whether or not you might pursue counseling for your trauma, I encourage you to think back on the event and try Harry's statement: "it's alright; it's over; it's just a memory." How does that sit with you? Are you able to believe yourself, visiting the memory from a distance, or do thoughts of the event trigger anxiety and fearfulness? If you responded with the latter, I want you to know that there is hope, and that you don't have to live a life haunted by your trauma. With counseling, you can begin the healing work of returning to a safe place not only in the world, but also within your own body. 
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Naming Some Needs of Trauma Survivors

3/1/2024

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Written by Allison Harvey

Trauma survivors have gone through something that challenged every part of them, most significantly their sense of safety. Their needs are personal, unique to their personality and circumstances, and often quite delicate. Naming these needs creates space for trauma survivors to feel safe, work toward healing and maintain connection with loved ones.

Physical Needs
On a very basic level, trauma survivors have a need for safety and security. Through their traumatic incident(s), they learned to be on guard and watchful. Trauma survivors need a physical location where they can let their guard down and rest. Trauma survivors also need access to medical and psychological care—professionals to come alongside them and nurture their physical and emotional self back to health. Trauma survivors also need adequate nutrition and sleep. Tending to these basic needs helps to heal a nervous system that felt a strong lack of safety.

Emotional Needs
Those who have survived trauma(s) have a strong need for emotional understanding, empathy and validation. When they are ready to share about their story, they need to be received with compassion, support and validation that says “what you are feeling makes sense to me.” Trauma survivors can also be supported with emotional skills that help them navigate trauma triggers and a large emotional burden while they are healing.

Social Needs
Trauma healing happens within a safe, understanding and supportive relationship(s). Those who have survived trauma need their people to remain open to them. Trauma healing can be messy and indirect, so survivors need compassion and grace to learn to feel safe in relationships again. Survivors may need more accommodations so that they can stay regulated, and this may look like them setting boundaries or asking for certain changes. Connecting with others who are healing from trauma can be very beneficial as well.

​Psychological Needs
Professionals who are supporting trauma survivors should be trauma-informed and have a path toward healing in mind. Psychological care should be gentle and paced by the survivor. Professionals should respect the trauma survivor’s wishes to tell their story or not, knowing that healing can happen either way. Trauma survivors benefit greatly from learning and practicing coping mechanisms and stress management techniques. All of these activities support the survivor to rebuild trust, regain resilience and personal strength. 
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Grief Companionship

3/20/2023

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Grief is often a completely confusing, disorienting, painful and lonely experience. There are many elements of our modern society and culture that make this experience that much more difficult and lonely. Bereavement, grief and mourning are very natural and necessary experiences, and they have the potential to be traumatic and/or transformative. One of the greatest gifts the bereaved can receive is the presence of a compassionate companion. Let’s take a closer look at what it means to offer this meaningful and healing companionship to someone who is grieving.

The most effective way to mourn after a loss is to share your thoughts and feelings (grief) with a compassionate listener (grief companion). The Grief Companion HOLDS SPACE for those who are grieving by providing a safe and empathetic presence in which the mourner can begin to explore the terrain of their inner world. HOLDING SPACE for the mourner is your contribution to their care. The grief companion does not guide the mourner, instead allows the mourner to choose the path. True expertise of grief lies with (and only with) the unique person who is grieving.

More specifically, Grief Companionship is being present to another person’s pain. The Grief Companion is willing to go into the wilderness of the soul with the bereaved. This is a spiritual journey, not only an intellectual journey. The Grief Companion is committed to bear witness to the struggles of the bereaved without judgement, direction, or quick fixes. They allow the disorder and confusion that so often afflicts the bereaved. They trust that the bereaved will find their way through the jungle of emotion and joins their journey with compassionate curiosity.

Central to the role of Grief Companion is the art of honoring stories.

In telling the story of their love and loss, mourners:
  • Find wholeness among their fractured parts,
  • Identify how loving and losing has affected their life,
  • Build comfort with the emotional and spiritual realms of life,
  • Create awareness and connections they previously haven’t made,
  • Discover their truth in the present moment,
  • Explore their changing identity and ways in which they have been transformed.

The art of Grief Companionship involves slowing down, becoming acquainted with the mourner’s inner world, and to really listen as the mourner embraces the reality of their loss, their pain, important memories and search for meaning. Each of our Benediction therapists are equipped as compassionate Grief Companions and we would be honored to journey with you in your grief.
  • References: Wolfelt, A.D. (2016) Counseling Skills for Companioning the Mourner. Ft. Collins, CO: Companion Press.
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