Navigating trauma triggers can be an overwhelming and disorienting experience, but Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers effective tools to help individuals regain a sense of safety and control. DBT, developed by psychologist Dr. Marsha Linehan, is a therapy designed to balance acceptance and change, making it particularly helpful for those managing intense emotional responses. In this post, we will explore three DBT skills—Grounding, Opposite Action, and Self-Soothe—that can be transformative in navigating trauma triggers. These skills are practical, adaptable, and offer a pathway to resilience and healing.

Grounding: Anchoring Yourself in the Present Moment
Trauma triggers often pull us into the past, making it difficult to stay connected to the present. Grounding techniques serve as anchors to the "now," helping you to focus on what is real and immediate. A simple yet powerful grounding exercise is the "5-4-3-2-1" method: identify five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. This exercise gently redirects your attention to your current surroundings, reducing the intensity of the emotional response. Grounding not only interrupts the cycle of reactivity but also reinforces your sense of safety and presence. Remember, you are not in the past—you are here, and you are safe.

Opposite Action: Choosing Empowerment Over Avoidance
When faced with a trauma trigger, the natural response might be to avoid or withdraw. While this instinct is understandable, it can sometimes reinforce feelings of fear and helplessness. Opposite Action, a DBT skill, involves intentionally engaging in behaviors that counteract these urges. For example, if a trigger makes you want to isolate, you might choose to call a supportive friend or take a walk in a safe, public place. This skill requires practice and courage, but it can gradually weaken the power of the trigger and strengthen your sense of agency. By challenging avoidance, you’re affirming that you are stronger than your fears and capable of reclaiming your life.

Self-Soothe: Nurturing Yourself with Compassion
Triggers can leave you feeling raw and vulnerable, which is why the Self-Soothe skill is so vital. This DBT skill encourages you to engage your senses in comforting, nurturing activities. Consider lighting a scented candle, wrapping yourself in a soft blanket, or listening to calming music. The goal is to create an environment that fosters relaxation and safety. By treating yourself with kindness and care, you’re sending a powerful message to your nervous system: it’s okay to relax, and you deserve comfort. Self-soothing not only eases the immediate distress but also builds a foundation of self-compassion that supports long-term healing.

A Path Toward Healing
The journey through trauma is not linear, and it’s natural to encounter moments of struggle along the way. However, integrating DBT skills like Grounding, Opposite Action, and Self-Soothe can equip you with tools to navigate even the most challenging triggers. Each skill is a step toward reclaiming your power, rebuilding your resilience, and reconnecting with your sense of self. Healing is not about erasing the past but learning to live fully in the present, and these skills provide a hopeful and actionable pathway to do just that. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and support is always available to help you move forward.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers a set of skills to help with many different emotional and relational difficulties. The four pillars of DBT are Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness and Distress Tolerance. Each of these pillars offers a number of skills to practice in that area. I have selected three DBT skills that I believe can make a significant difference for those managing depression.
Depression is an experience that includes a slow-down or freeze response in the nervous system. People managing depression may feel numb, detached, hopeless and sad. These internal experiences may cause them to isolate from relationships, get stuck in their difficult emotions, struggle to complete normal activities. Often, those managing depression feel misunderstood by the people in their life, especially when they are encouraged to “think positively” and “just get over it.” In fact, people managing depression are often expending enormous effort to engage in their life in the most simple ways. The following set of DBT skills can be used together or individually to improve depression symptoms and help catalyze healing and forward movement.

1.Emotion Regulation Skill: Opposite Action
When we are using Emotional Regulation skills, we are paying attention to whether or not our emotions fit the situation we are in. Opposite Action is a skill that we reach for when we have determined that our emotions DO NOT fit the facts of the situation. This is often the case with depression. Depression is like a lens that makes life look harder and sadder than it actually is.
All emotions have an action urge, an instinctual action that the emotion makes us want to do. When our emotions DO NOT fit the situation, we benefit from acting opposite to the action urge. Here are some common emotions experienced in depression and suggestions for opposite action.

• Hopelessness --> Action Urge: give up -->Opposite Action: stay engaged, keep trying
• Sadness --> Action Urge: isolate, wallow, freeze --> Opposite Action: share, express, move
• Numb --> Action Urge: disengage, stop moving --> Opposite Action: gentle movement, embodiment

 
2.Interpersonal Effectiveness Skill: Making Requests
Making Requests is a relationship skill that is very closely related to making boundaries. Requests highlight what we need from another person. While they can be vulnerable to make, they are also vital to communicating our needs with others. Loved ones are not mind-readers and need invitations and instructions to know how to care for those managing depression.
People experiencing depression are almost always misunderstood by the people who care for them most. Unless they have experienced depression themselves, loved ones will likely minimize the depressed experience. From the outside, it may appear that it would only take a few simple steps to recover from depression. If only that were true.
In order to stay connected with loved ones and to receive the care they absolutely need, those managing depression need to lean into this skill of making requests. They need to speak about how they are feeling and the effort they are expending to engage with their lives. They need to ask their loved ones to be patient with them, to use encouraging language, to offer comfort and presence rather than solutions.
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3.Distress Tolerance Skill: Radical Acceptance
We reach for distress tolerance skills when we are going through circumstances that are too big and/or too hard for us to change. Depression often comes on the tails of a big and hard life event, such as the loss of a loved one, a difficult transition, a painful event or unmovable circumstances. When there is truly nothing we can do to change our circumstances, we need to shift our focus toward acceptance.
We are using radical acceptance skills when we work to create openness and willingness toward our difficult circumstances. Willingness is a powerful mindset shift and means that we will stop fighting against what is inevitable. Endlessly fighting against unfavorable circumstances is a recipe for suffering. Pain is inevitable in our lives, but suffering is a choice. We can still live meaningful lives in the midst of painful circumstances. When we give up the fight, we are more able to find acceptance. . . and peace.